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How does this happen? I have days and days of happy and positive attitude and then today - not so much! Which brings me to my next thing. When you argue with your significant other/spouse, do you still say “I love you”?? Sometimes The Husband and I get into it (usually about something incredibly stupid) before one of us has to leave or get off the phone. When this is going on and nothing more needs to or can be said, do you still kiss them and say you love them?
We do, and sometimes
that breaks the tension because our tone is still hurt/upset but we are saying
something meaningful. The reality is that just because we are fighting, arguing, disagreeing, or annoyed with one another
doesn’t mean we love each other less. We
don’t just love when it is easy, we said that in our vows.
Sometimes the I love you sounds so pitiful that we kind of laugh about
things and get over it.
How do you get over it?
Sometimes for me to fully let go of anything, the person I’m arguing
with and I HAVE to apologize to one another. It has to happen. I can’t feel comfortable about moving on
until apologies are made. If they aren’t,
it remains an open ticket in my mind. It doesn’t matter who apologizes first,
it matters that there is something that ends the awkwardness.
This married stuff isn’t for the faint of heart, you know.
It also isn’t easyl. Ideally you get married and live happily ever after but
it isn’t all happy. It can’t be. This isn’t some fairytale where love triumphs
over all. Marriage, relationships, it all takes more than that. I believe that Love isn’t the end all, be all, magic potion and sometimes, just SOMETIMES love isn't enough. Now, I love my husband with all my being and
I LIKE my husband. We are friends and companions in life, this relationship,
and his company.
Some days I want to just cuddle up with him and never leave
the house. Other days I want to pull my
hair out. We are such different people –
our minds function so opposite on so many things. That’s why I’m a self-proclaimed
communication freak. I will talk things
to death but I want to make sure we see eye to eye and are all on the same
page. Sometimes things get convoluted into a giant, confusing mess but hey, happens to
the best of us right?!
This weekend is full of friendly gatherings that we are
really looking forward to – one is this girl’s wedding and apparently The Husband
doesn’t love weddings – weird I know! But
we will be together and I have an amazing dress that will be arriving
tomorrow. So what does he have to
complain about? Celebrating a new marriage of really sweet people, free party, food, and drinks whilst I am in a hot dress and
heels? Nothing. That’s right. Men are
weird.
And to end my super randoms – I met my girlfriend
yesterday for lunch and she brought her adorable 9 month old daughter. I’m so glad her husband was promoted and they
were able to return to Florida! I missed her terribly while they were living in
NC!
Alright beauties, that's all I have for now - Just lunch dates and arguments over really dumb stuff.
Oh! and tomorrow's Friday! YIPPEEE!!
Alright beauties, that's all I have for now - Just lunch dates and arguments over really dumb stuff.
Oh! and tomorrow's Friday! YIPPEEE!!
1 comment:
Thank you for being so honest and real in this post. My husband and I are quite different too and that's what drew me to him-he's stable and I'm emotional. But when it comes to arguing that means we have different styles too. We also take a breather during a fight and then come back within an hour to talk it out, say I'm sorry and then we end with a promise that we will try to do better at X, Y, or Z. It's not perfect, but it works for us. And yes, we always say I love you too.
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