Thoughts?? Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
EW! What?! NO!!!
Not THAT kind!!
I'm talking about the show on ABC that just started last week...
Anyone watch it?? I have watched one episode...I think its pretty hilarious!
In the ONE episode I have seen, the husband finds out that his wife went to a marriage counselor...just to see how they were doing. BUT she never told him. He found out anyway and by the end of the episode they agree on talking to one another before speaking to a counselor.
That got me thinking about a post by Kate over at Every Mile a Memory called Are You Your Husband's Girlfriend?
I really enjoyed her post about continuing to do the little things that were important long after the 'newness' of the relationship wears off and once he puts a ring on it. Part of what she talks about makes me think of communication and how it is so important to maintaining the friendship that started before the romance did...for most anyway =)
I talked to J about it the other night as we cuddled on the couch. The term Kate used was 'Forever Girlfriend' -- J thought it was so cute. I know over the past year since the wedding I HAVE slacked in my overall attempts to be a 'girlfriend'. He, without a doubt, still loves me and thinks I'm 'The Hot-ness That Is' but I know he loves when I make an effort. I still try to dress up (or get dressed at some point for those days on the couch) and I spritz some perfume/body spray every morning. But I am not talking ONLY dressing up or being presentable but also in my attitude.
I have lately been very quick to get frustrated when The Husband isn't seeing my perspective or understanding my POV. It use to be I was patient and would attempt to explain myself in a different way so that we were on the same page as far as what I was trying to convey.
Stress or not, I know I need to make that effort. When I am frustrated so is he and vice versa. It didn't use to be so but it is nice for someone to share in the same emotions. On the other hand, if he is pouting about something that I think is silly, I may start pouting because he is being a brat...OK that scenario is usually the other way around, but whatev =)
The point is that YEARS from now, I want to have an even happier and healthier relationship with the man I call Husband than I do today.
I promise not to take myself so seriously; be more patient about everything; play his silly games, even if they are annoying at times -- ESPECIALLY since he almost ALWAYS plays mine; be passionate about us and our relationship.
The explanation/equation Kate gave to help all the women out there really understand what was going on with their man was:
Always remember that men need to feel admired.
Pride + Ego = Man
Feeling admired is a male need.
Being needed is a male need.
Are you YOUR Husband's girlfriend?
Go on, go get your happy ending!
STILL not talking about THAT kind!!