Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Life Isn't Always Skittles and Glitter

Good Morning and Happy Wednesday to all of you lovelies!!
First – Welcome to all my new followers!!! So glad you have found me and want to stay! I have enjoyed reading your blogs and getting to know you!

Second – I really feel I need to apologize for my lack of substance lately. We have been so busy with life in general. We are working hard to get on our feet and move in a forward direction.

We have come to some obstacles as of late…these obstacles have nothing to do with our relationship.
I don’t want to go into detail but I will tell you the absolute biggest piece of my life that is keeping it all together is our marriage. No matter what we have to come into contact with, I know we can make it through because we have each other and we support each other 100%.

It occurred to me on my drive home earlier this week, that at the end of the day, that is what is most important. All these things that are weighing me down and sending me into a pity party state are so inconsequential. We are approaching our obstacles hand in hand, on our feet and head on. It hasn’t been easy – they aren’t kidding when they say the first year of marriage is the hardest. That isn’t always necessarily to do with the relationship you have with your new spouse – it is all encompassing.
He is supportive and caring even when I am irrational (and I tend to be + overdramatic = possible meltdown lol) but he is there to hold my hand, give me a hug and talk me off the ledge…OK sometimes that means he laughs at me for being so over the top, but it helps me out =)

Along with my amazing husband who loves me unconditionally, I am fortunate to have strong family/friend unit. My family is my friends and my friends are my family – they become one in the same. Yes, of course, my ACTUAL family is different but each individual whether actual family or ‘extended’ family holds a special place in my heart.
When I look around and see the people in my life who love me and who will stick by me as long as I continue to be myself and the good person I attempt (and sometimes struggle) to be, they will be there. They will love and support me.

When we were making our guest list for the wedding, we started looking at the people who would be there for us, who would help us if we struggled – those were the people that we wanted there the most. The ones who supported us when we were just friends; then when we were dating; while we were engaged and then would support us in our commitment to one another. That is why during our ceremony we asked for the love, support and blessing of each person present at our wedding:
Two people in love do not live in isolation. The love between J and Ashley is a source of strength to each other and to the community around them. In turn, their community has a responsibility to support them. Do you who are present here today promise to surround J and Ashley in love, offering them celebration in times of joy and counsel in times of concern? If so, answer we do.
We are a strong couple together – we are a stronger couple because we have an unbelievable support system.
To my friends and family who read this – thank you so much for all of your love and support. Sometimes J and I need you to cheer us up, be our silver lining and help brush the dirt off. I promise, we will do the same for y'all =)

Since I won’t be going into detail about some of the trials we have had to deal with, I am going to share What I’m Loving Wednesday! Link up here!

I'm Loving...My Hot Super Amazing and Loving Husband
This is what he text me yesterday "I love you like crazy"
how cute is he?!
I'm Loving...My wonderful friends
*Not all pictured here
I'm Loving...My Parents and Sister
I'm Loving...That my birthday is in ONE WEEK!
I'm Loving...this new single from Blake Shelton Honey Bee
*I'm loving that he has short hair lol
I'm Loving... that it is Wednesday! and right now it is barely 60* out!!  That is so much more bearable than the 90* it was yesterday -- ick! haha
I'm Loving... these cupcakes I found over at My Life Unzipped!! How cute are they?!

I can't wait to try them -- she also posted a link for some Whiskey chocolate cupcakes with Bailey's frosting! I am so looking forward to trying these 2 new recipes!
I'm Loving...that I am getting back into a work out routine -- a little P90X + a splash of cardio = an emotionally stable and happy Ashley
Happy Halfway through the week Everyone! I hope you are having a great week and Wonderful Wednesday!


♥ Marcy ♥ said...

omg gurrrrrrlllllllll I love the Honey Bee song too and the fact that he has short hair... tee hee! Hope you have a happy Wednesday!

Allison said...

It's great that you have such a great support system. I've been realizing the first year of marriage is SO tough, add in the military and I'm an emotional wreck! LOL

You have lots to be loving this week. :) I'm loving Blake Shelton's hair shorter too!

Kym @ Travel Babbles said...

<3<3<3<3<3 I wish you all the health and happiness in the world and I look forward to brighter days ahead for you!

Just wanted to comment on your "a little P90X + a splash of cardio = an emotionally stable and happy Ashley" ... I cannot agree enough! Exercise and having a routine is so so so important and I need to get back into the swing of it all, too.


cailen ascher said...

Though you're going through a tough time, it sounds like you're very blessed. A supportive partner and family trump all else :-)

Elizabeth said...

Sorry things aren't pretty for you right now. You are so lucky to have such a great hubs. I think, that when life becomes hectic and crazy, if you always have that one person who can make you smile...Well, that's how you know they are your soulmate.

Btw, I'm drooling over that cupcake! Ha! xoxo

Café Moka said...

Cute cupcake!!!
Have a great Wednesday!

Sam W. said...

i'm sorry you've been going through so much. marriage really is one of the most amazing things ever!

love blake shelton :)

Mrs. V said...

Aw I found your blog through the WILW link up and I LOVE it! I look forward to reading more! Keep your head up, you'll make it through the struggles together and i'm thinking those delicious cupcake recipes will help keep the sanity! ;)

Brittany said...

BLake Shelton is one of my favorites!

Cat said...

Awww...sweetie, I hope that there are brighter days ahead!

My heart melted a bit when you shared the fact that your marriage is your lighthouse, your guide, your sweet!

Blessings, Cat

Nicole said...

God knew the blessing that J would bring to you in your life :)

Anonymous said...

I'm sad that life is throwing you curveballs, but I'm glad you have such a great hubby by your side! :)

The Pressley Family said...

Sweet post:)

Tracy said...

New to your site. We find our true support systems in the worst of times. Close family and friends that will stand by your side now matter what are the absolute best. Saw the Steelers shirt on your dad - nice.

Amber said...

Oh I can echo this post in 100 ways. We have struggled with numerous obstacles over the past twelve months and somehow the single thing that has gotten me through all of it is my marriage.

It's so great that you recognize the importance of sticking together through all of this. I'm so glad you have him to be your partner through life! :)

Michelle said...

Having a strong family/friend grouping surrounding you really can get you through the toughest of are so right! Life is not always skittles and glitter!!

Oh, and I need a cupcake like that. It will brighten my day!

Have a good day!


PS- Found you through WILW!!!

Karli said...

I'm so sorry to hear that you & J are working through hard times right now but so glad to hear that you have each other to work through life together!

Also, so glad that you posted Blake Shelton's performance! I hadn't tracked it down yet. I'll be listening to it shortly! :)

Sean Marie said...

Aw, it's always important to focus on the bigger picture and remember that you have supportive people who care! :) Happy Wednesday.

Tami said...

So sorry to hear that you've been going through tough times but yay for an awesome hubby to get through it with! Hang in there girl!

Anonymous said...

Love your positive outlook! Keep going! So glad you have a great support network. And Bailey's frosting? That sounds divine :)

Lindsay said...

So good that you guys can have a strong relationship in good times and in bad! So important! And I hear ya on the work out routine = emotionally stable...soooo true!

Unknown said...

Great pictures! Thinking of you during this time :) Have a great day! xoxo

kim {the non-mom blogger} said...

Those cupcakes are SUPER cute!!!

And yes, a support system is vital :-)

Have a great day!

Michelle (michabella) said...

I love how honest and real this post is. So amazing that God has blessed you with a great support system and husband <3 Wasn't yesterday just a BEAUTIFUL day?!

Christina said...

So...I must say that I enjoyed the wording in the title...

I know things are tough sometimes, but it will all work out. Even if it's not the way you envisioned it, things will always end up how they are supposed to! And if you need me to, I'll punch someone in the face for you and then we could at least have a good laugh at my broken hand ;) and then we'll get Chickfila and Ice Cream!

And cupcakes...yum!! :)

Jamie said...

Thanks for playing along!

You and your hubby are so cute!